He tries too hard to be liked or respected, which ironically ensures he is neither.
A bounder is often exposed by a minor transgression—an inappropriate joke at a funeral, or being overly familiar with a waiter to show "authority." The Bounder vs. The Cad bounder
At his core, a bounder is someone who is "climbing" but hasn’t yet learned the grace of the height. The term implies a certain kinetic energy—he "bounds" into rooms where he wasn't invited and into conversations where he has nothing of substance to add. He is characterized by: He tries too hard to be liked or